How to Protect Yourself…
I use to think when I was in my teens that Slick Rick summed up the definition of a relationship in his song "A Teenage Loveâ€ (I know I'm taking y'all way back lol). It's very rare I talk about relationships over the past few days I've had conversations with people that has started me to think about certain situations, including my own. There really isn't a guide to follow when it comes to being in a relationship. You can read every book about relationships, but it still won't pertain to the one you're in. I think the one thing we all can agree on is that we've been in good relationships and bad relationships. Most of us have been hurt, me personally, I've been devastated. That is a feeling I wouldn't wish on anyone, nor do I want to feel again. So, how do you protect yourself? You definitely don't want to put a wall up, but you also don't want to let your guard down. It's very hard to let someone into your personal space once you've been hurt. You can't let yourself walk around carrying this extra burden, it's not fair to you or to the next person you decide to let in your life. If you enjoy being with someone, be with them and enjoy it, life is too short, not to.
When you feel complications and drama coming up that you don't want to deal with, you have a choice to move on. I use stay in relationships, just because I didn't want it to seem like I failed at something, but in actuality the best thing I could have done is walked away. If you truly care about someone, let them know, if I'm into a person they will definitely know, if I'm not they will know that too. It's no need to play games or beat around the bush or play with people's emotions, it's not worth it. Also, never assume, assumptions are the termites of a relationship. The ever so popular telephone game "He Said, She Saidâ€, people stop it! Go straight to the source if you have a question, not their homie or girlfriend. It may be clichÃ©' but trust is a main component of a relationship, if you don't trust the person, why waste your time or theirs. Never compare your relationship or situation to someone else's, the definitions are never the same. Another thing I learned is not to smother the person I'm with, no one can grow in the shade. If you start to feel something just isn't right, to quote Slick Rick "You better take hints quick and make the right changeâ€.
"To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship.â€ ~DomÃ©nico Cieri Estrada
BTW-Did you all know that Lil Kim was in the video for "A Teenage Love" by Slick Rick?
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