38 Comments Wednesday, April 9th, 2008
Why I’m not Married? Yetâ€¦.
Not so fast down that aisle…
I get this question so much that I want to walk around with a recorded response that plays on cue. Itâ€™s not that Iâ€™m against marriage; I was engaged once. But at this time in my life, itâ€™s just not for me. Most of my friends and family recently decided to take that plunge and I truly wish them best. Iâ€™ve seen happy marriages and Iâ€™ve seen some marriages for convenience, and that bothers me. I also see people that are married but continue to live their lives as if they were single. My issue is if you want to live that way, stay single. Why make a commitment if you donâ€™t hold up your end of the bargain? I mean â€œTil Death do us Partâ€ is a pretty long time. I also believe marriage should be sacredâ€”a friend of mine told me every time the subject arises, he explains that he holds the institution of marriage in such high esteem that heâ€™s decided to never offend it with his participation (LOL). With all of the reality shows, too many to name, the subject of marriage is like a game. I was very close to appearing on one of those shows but, like the majority of the people on there it would have been for exposure, not because I was truly looking for love.
To be honest, I enjoy being single. I enjoy my freedom and I enjoy other peopleâ€™s children (I can always send them home, LOL). That doesnâ€™t mean Iâ€™m lacking in anything, like some seem to believe. For my single people out there, isnâ€™t it funny how your married friends and family always try to â€œset you up?â€ They feel like theyâ€™re doing you a favor. If it was up to my mom, I would have my own reality showâ€”of course she wants me to get married, but more so sheâ€™s pushing for a grandchildâ€”so donâ€™t be surprised if you hear of a new show called â€œWho Wants to Marry My Daughter and Get her Pregnant , Immediately?â€ (should I trademark that? LOL). Love can be a beautiful thing, however, a lot of things have to be considered before you make a serious commitment (I touched on this in a previous blog) . I commend those people who know they arenâ€™t ready. I commend those who know when they are. I asked my sorority sister Trina why she decided to get married (I asked a few people and some actually said because someone asked them, LOL), but her answer was beautiful: She decided to get married because she had finally met a man that loved her fearlessly. Before she met her husband, marriage was the furthest from her mind. The day she packed up her things to relocate to Atlanta with him, she found a list of qualities that she had written 4 years earlier, and one by one he matched everything on her list. Hearing her story definitely gave me some insight on how one can find true love. Even more impressive is that they also work together. In reality, marriage is like a job where both people play the role of supervisor and employee equally.
Itâ€™s often said that when one looks, one never finds. It may sound clichÃ© but I may have already met my husband to be and donâ€™t even know it. Some people get married young, some people get married when theyâ€™re older and some not at all. Let that individual make the decision. Who knows, somewhere down the line you may see a blog from me about â€œWedded Bliss,â€ but for now, Iâ€™ll stick with enjoying my life one day at a time.
â€œWait patiently for the right person to come your way; the wrong ones will always be available.”
**On a side note, was that not one of the best NCAA Championship games ever?!! Too bad I picked Memphis to win it all in my bracket, but hey, it was still a great game!
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